With A Birthmother's Choice you can choose the couple that will raise your baby. We listen very carefully to what you tell us you want, and we will help you find just the right adoptive couple - or something close to it.
There are a few things you should know about adoptive couples. They are probably as nervous as you are. They have probably never done an adoption before. They have more money than you do and are usually willing to help with your living expenses as the law allows. Most have infertility problems and cannot have biological children of their own; they are usually very sensitive about this weakness. Sometimes they come on like they are superior to compensate. Adoptive parents come with all kinds of personalities.
They have been screened through a process called an adoption homestudy to ascertain that they are not criminals and will be good parents. The homestudy process is difficult and invasive; only folks that really want to be parents are willing to go through it. You can be assured that your baby will not be mistreated. Most likely it will be a little bit spoiled and be given the chance to go to college and be given many other advantages in life.
They want to be parents so bad, most adoptive couples have a fear that you will change you mind and not go through with the adoption. This is a barrier in many adoptions. They want to be able to trust you.
Most couples would like to know about your background and your birth fathers. They would like to see pictures and have as much information as possible about the babys biological family. If you have other children, they would like to see photos of them or meet them. They would like to get some idea of what the baby they are adopting will look like or what kind of temperament he or she might have.
Most adoptive mothers have never been pregnant and have no idea how it feels. There is a tendency for them to worry too much about your health and your baby's health during the pregnancy. If something comes up, talk to your caseworker first.
In order to establish a long term relationship with the adoptive parents, it is extremely important that there be mutual respect and consideration.
